Cadman has ran up it since day one and practically hops and dances his way up like it's no big deal. At first he would get very impatient if he got stuck behind Hamilton. Now he makes sure he goes first. But every single time he waits at the top for Hamilton and claps when he makes it up. Every. Single. Time.
Yes, having two so close in age, bringing them home at the same time, juggling appointments and therapy--it's all hard. But so much in life is hard. And yet so little is this precious.
October is Down syndrome awareness month and I've struggled with how to address it. I don't want there to have to be a month where we beg the world to see our children and loved ones as #worthy. I don't want there to have to be a month where we beg the world to accept their differences, to understand their differences and to not just love them anyway, but to value them. I don't want there to have to be a month where we beg doctors to stop pressuring expecting parents into aborting babies with down syndrome, throwing at them incorrect, outdated and extremely negative stats. I don't want there to have to be a month where we tell the world how smart and capable our sons and daughters are and beg that they be given access to education, healthcare and employment. I don't want to spend the month of October explaining that although my child may look different, communicate different or learn different, he is still a whole person, a valuable member of society.
So I spend all year sharing with you the minor details of our life, the happy moments, the hard moments and lots in between. I do this so that the world can see my boys for who they are...not a diagnosis or a disability...but as whole persons. As #worthy persons. I share on social media so that maybe in real life we all become kinder, more accepting...so that we all begin to examine, question and hopefully reject what the media and society tries so hard to convince us makes us #worthy. I share so that maybe in falling in love with my boys, you will fall in love with human kind again. I share so that maybe in finding joy through my boys, you will find joy in each other again. I share so maybe in celebrating my boys' unique abilities, you will begin to celebrate each other's unique abilities.
I share because whether you are Cadman at the top cheering or Hamilton struggling, slowly but surely, to the top, you are #worthy, just as they are. We are all different...and we are all #worthy.